you’re framing this in an unhelpful way. what makes a thought “”negative”“? what do you think constitutes “accepting” or “damaging”?
i feel as though you’re spending too much time with yourself — yourself as a figment of yourself, that is.
if you were truly dedicated to yourself, you would be living in your body. what does “living” mean? living means doing.
(thinking is also doing — thinking through a math problem, thinking through a strategy in a game, thinking through the significance of a paragraph that you just read. looping bad thoughts aren’t thinking. they’re evidence of being out at sea for too long, or perhaps bigger things*)
do things in your body. that is what your body is for. go for a run. if you’re really doing, there’s no time to “think” — and by that i mean, no time to drive yourself batty with circular navel-gazing thoughts. when you run, you’re running and thinking about your day, thinking about stupid things, thinking negative thoughts maybe, but there comes a point when you’re just going, “step step inhale, step step exhale, step step inhale, step step exhale.” rest at an intersection. eyeball the next block. “i’m going to try to keep my pace for 5 blocks. step step inhale, step step exhale”
sitting in one spot on the tumbly machine doesn’t do this.
it’s not the sitting, though, or the tumbly, individually — meditating makes use of yourself in lumping one spot, as does praying, memorizing, reading, writing, knitting, etc. and tumblr can be a terrific tool when i utilize it like one — when i use it to look up photography, or build my website, or share a reading of something, or to keep up with an unfolding event — or as a temporary coping tool when i’m at a bad party or a doctor’s office or had a bad day — but —
literally, just, look up verbs. do verbs. if your activity results in negative thoughts, it results in negative thoughts, but at least it won’t be coming from random pop culture signifiers (ala tumblr), or a ghost of yourself nagging yourself with looping tapes.
*this is all with the disclaimer that this advice is about your attitude, not anxiety or depression, in which case, seek help in a book or a professional or church or anything/anyone more present and available for you than a blogging girl.
i have said more positive things previously but i am feeling a bit churlish. vague questions drive me nuts. “how does one expel/maintain/moderate negative thoughts??” write me a letter if you ever figure it out and i’ll get you a million dollar book deal and a recommendation to the nobel prize committee.
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